And with that knowledge you’ll be able to ask yourself whether you want to go back and give it another go.
If you’ve moved on and got on with your life, maybe even found a new partner, then someone who had previously left you might begin to be interested again.
They want you to want them, but the minute that you do they’ll likely go cold on you again.
The best way to handle this is to not get involved with them at all – this behaviour is co-dependant, unhealthy, and will make you feel crazy. The best reason to get back with an ex is because you both want to be together again and whatever it was that caused you to break-up in the first place has been resolved.
The worst reason is because one or both of you are lonely and there’s no-one else available.
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Talk to your friends and family about it – you’ll be able to see from their reaction whether or not they think it is a good idea for you to give it another go.
Try to get a realistic picture of what things were like between you and your ex rather than an idealised romantic image.
Keep each memory brief and succinct so that you don’t end up writing your life story. It’s even okay if it takes a few days; how many memories you have will depend on how long you were together.
In the end, you’ll have compiled a summary of what really affected you in that relationship.
This exercise can bring up a lot of emotions so make sure you have the time and space to do it – and a box of tissues on hand!