And yet this one guy with the trivia questions was able to bring out your playful side.” The moral of the story is that you are ALWAYS responsible for how you leave a conversation. By being optimistic, playful, interested and interesting, you can almost always transform any evening into a pleasant experience.The problem is that we don’t; we expect the other person to do the heavy lifting – to make the plans, to ask the silly questions, to raise the playing field.I was having brunch with some girlfriends the other day, and we got on the subject of first dates. It's a generic question that breeds generic answers, and doesn’t really give you additional insight into who I am.
Should I say, “Well, I don’t hook up right away, so most guys get bored with me, and that’s why I’m single!” Or should I say, “I get really clingy around month three and it scares guys off, so here I am, solo!On the flip side, when a guy asks me what kind of guys I like, I might feel uncomfortable, especially if he doesn’t fit my normal boyfriend mold.I don’t want to have to tell Kevin Hart that my last three boyfriends were NBA players. In the end, knowing a person’s “type” really doesn’t matter as long as they’re attracted to you. This question is a little different from “what kind of guys/girls do you like?First dates are exciting, but they can also be downright nerve-wracking. Asking a question in an email will increase your chance of hearing back from someone you have your eye on!
No worries; you don’t need to remember all of them! You can also use one of these questions in your email correspondence. For me, the answer is always the same: “I like all types of guys." I mean, if I’m on a date with you, it's because I’m open to dating you, no matter what you look like. So, are you trying to make me to cry on our first date?This is information you’ll get eventually, but maybe we can keep it light and positive on the first few dates, please? Seriously, why does a man need to know if I live alone? I’d like to help you out before that next big dinner or coffee by offering some creative first date questions you can use if you need to stir up conversation. What’s the most embarrassing thing that happened to you in elementary school? If your house was on fire, what’s the first thing you’d grab to save? She played along and pushed right back and they’ve already got a first date lined up. “He was so lively and engaging that I sort of had no choice but to come back with something equally witty and creative.” “So by him writing something playful and interesting to you, he actually brought out a more playful and interesting side of you? Wouldn’t it stand to reason that if you took the time to write something interesting and creative back to these guys, you might discover that they actually have a personality?