Now I don’t know if it was because of his divorce or something else but it turns out that we weren’t as compatible as we once thought we were. Although we didn’t last forever, I now realize that I don’t need sex to validate any relationship.
There are an awful lot of people very quietly not having sex in our loudly sexualised society.
3) Self-discipline – there are a lot of things in life that we have to work hard to achieve like developing a successful career, or even hitting the gym on the regular.
So why should holding out from sex be any different?
At a time when teenagers face increasing peer pressure to lose their virginity and couples are expected to enjoy sex well into retirement – aided by the twin gods of Viagra and hormone replacement therapy – could celibacy and asexuality be the last sexual taboos?
'Questioning sex makes people very uneasy and there's a lot of stigma about not having sex,' says Hephzibah Anderson, who wrote the memoir Chastened (Vintage, £7.99) after choosing to be celibate for a year.
'But most of us will go through a dry spell at some point, and some people just aren't that into it. One of the reasons I wrote the book was to try to bring celibacy back as an option.' While people may dip in and out of celibacy, asexuality tends to be a permanent state.
The Aven online asexual network has 40,000 members worldwide.
Recent research suggests that one in 20 couples is celibate, though not necessarily by mutual choice; while about one per cent of the population is asexual – that is, not sexually attracted to anyone.
Why, then, is not wanting sex still seen as the oddball option?
I asked around & found out that there were quite a few benefits to being celibate, including: 1) Good health – being disease-free (and pregnancy-free for that matter) is no joke.
This is probably the top benefit of not sleeping with someone.
: 1) Bringing us closer – sometimes intimacy and sex go hand & hand.