It often involves friendship, discussing each individuals future plans, knowing the parents if theyre alive, and praying privately for Gods will in the matter. We never kissed or even held hands until we were engaged. Weve been married for almost 18 years, and are still in love.
We should expect purity before marriage, just as we would expect purity during marriage. And worse, I feel dating is so expected and sometimes, encouraged by the church, family and Christian friends, that we wonder why people fail sexually, and later, get disappointed when they fail in their marriage. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body" (1 Cor , ASV). Lets face it: dating as it is practiced today, does not agree with this scripture. Okay, so you feel something for this guy, but use your head, not your libido. Does love motivate the guy who sleeps with his girlfriend when it will scar her emotionally and damage her relationship with God? That was the only time we placed ourselves in that kind of position. The best safeguard is to teach and expect our members to practice courtship.I know Christian parents who allow their teenagers to date. When people date, they are not fleeing fornication; instead they are flirting with it. If a person really loves someone, then he will make sure not to do anything, which might hurt her. I know we usually do not associate love with intelligence. Does love motivate the girl who leads a guy along then breaks up with him when she finds someone better? After eating dinner, we headed back to Sonias house, only to make a detour into the woods. I can imagine couples constantly placing themselves in compromising situations. Im sure Sonia and I would have eventually succumbed to fornication if we had constantly placed ourselves in that kind of position. When you go to the grocery store, the most important thing to do is to get a good shopping cart.When you fornicate you are acting as though you are married. Modern dating has taken something very serious that God has made and turning it into a game. You didnt intend to hit the cans, but you started off with the wrong cart.Youve seen the Dating Game, and that sums up dating: it has become a game. But someone who knows only one person, does not have anyone else to compare him with, and is more likely to be satisfied with their "one and only".
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.Let me say first of all: Dont get hung up on terms.It is possible to use the word date but not necessarily have the same understanding as my definition. If you say you date but dont do what I define dating as being, then I feel you are practicing courting, although you might still use the term dating. It sounds so much better, but in reality, dating and mating are sometimes the same.They say, "Better find out if you are compatible sexually before marriage than after marriage."You know this argument is so lame. Another argument of the proponents of sex before marriage is this: if you wait until marriage to have sex, then you will always desire more; better to get it out of your system before marriage than to do it after marriage. He decides to go to Wal-Mart and gets himself some overalls.Common sense tells us that sex will be wonderful so long as you are in love with the person. Let me ask you this question: how long do you think he will keep his clothes? Yet, you and I both know he probably will keep those overalls for many years.The world expects teenagers to date, so parents feel like they must go along with the world. They are seeing how close they can get to sex without actually doing it. The scriptures also says, "Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute (fornicator) is one with her in body? It is meant by God to draw together two people who are in love and who have committed to spend the rest of their lives together. I know guys will say anything to get sex from their girlfriends. Is he ready to take responsibility for a child that they might conceive? How can we expect to exercise self-control if we constantly put ourselves in compromising situations? The only time we had to repent before God was when we placed ourselves in a position we should not have. Not one that has wheels constantly spinning around.