I’m vehemently against the hacking approach with both life and dating, even though I’ve historically gotten sucked into it. Game mentions it, but you don’t need to read Game to realize this.The elevator summary is that just like we don’t choose to like chocolate, the smell of roses, the sensual experience of sex or feeling appreciated, women don’t choose to be attracted to you or not.The whole life-hacking movement is really popular with Silicon Valley-type technical-minded men because it’s the way we think.
My goal is to be happier, live a better life and be the most of that I can be.If I am like this, then I have a certain kind of faith that I will meet someone right for me.Otherwise, some of the concepts are common sense or would flow out of natural behavior if you just rid yourself of the bullshit.The real problem is that Game is mixed with a lot of shit that will make you even worse with women – and a worse human being.The following form the foundation of being a better you and attract the best girl for you. Forget about all the books and get out there and speak to women, because there is no close second.
I could tell you until tomorrow to not get overexcited about a girl, but until you get overexcited and burned, it will be irrelevant. Human relations and life are more of an art, not a science. We think life and dating are like software that needs debugging or some technical problem that we need to use more of our brains to solve. Girls are way ahead of the curve here and are much more intuitive.
This post simply attempts to fit dating into a Zen and Buddhist lifestyle paradigm and give over some lessons I’ve learned over time. I wrote it so that I don’t forget the lessons I’ve learned. You should always only apply what does resonate with you.
These ideas are made to fit my own life and might not fit with yours.
Remember, your environment has a massive impact on you. Many of my male readers are probably involved in what’s called ‘Game’.
The girlfriend you choose can be the most significant environmental impact because you are around them often. If they’re constantly depressed, anxious, angry, jealous, unkind, then this will have an impact on you. Even if it were the case that my ‘strategy’ or blueprint doesn’t have the broadest appeal, I don’t care because it feels right with me and it’s something that I can respect. If you haven’t realized that it doesn’t work yet, you soon will.
Perhaps the worst aspect of ‘Game’ is that it stunts your long-term development, even if you find it helps you in the short term. I say you shouldn’t make any changes solely to attract women if it doesn’t make you happier as well.